Monday, January 1, 2018

Protect Your Husband's Heart & Mind by Getting NAKED

Does that topic embarrass you?
Does talking about it make you extremely uncomfortable?

If so, I am going to go ahead and warn you that you are going to be tempted to stop reading and close this post.  Please don’t.  Ladies, if you are married and want to do something in 2018 to help your husband pursue Jesus, please keep reading.

With all the New Year’s resolutions floating around, I would like to challenge you to add something to your list… GET NAKED!  Vow to make 2018 the year of more nudity and less modesty.

In marriage, part of my job is to help my husband prepare for Eternity.  I want to help him keep his heart and mind pure.  I want to make it easy for him flee from sexual immorality.  I want to partner with him as he pursues Jesus.  And I am learning that one of the best ways to help him flee from sin is to get naked.

Men are visual and that doesn’t change just because they love Jesus. Husbands were wonderfully and perfectly designed by a loving Father to be drawn to their wives.  What a gift!  In this crazy hyper-sexualized culture, the God of the universe placed in our husbands a desire and need for sex that keeps them coming back to us.

Choose to not make your husband feel bad for being who he was designed to be.
Choose to work with the Creator to protect your guy.

After all...

You are the only woman he is allowed to see naked.
Your breasts are the only ones he is allowed to look at and touch.
Your body is the only one he is allowed to explore.

Send your man into the world armed with visuals to protect his mind.  Knowing you can’t control what other women wear or how much skin they will reveal, be intentional in the mornings about dressing in front of your husband.  Let your breasts stay exposed a little longer than normal and make sure he sees them.  I promise, he will think about you all day.

God made the female body soft and curvy and your man doesn't just want to see it, he wants to touch it.  If your husband is anything like mine, when he isn't able to touch he often resorts to grabbing and groping, which isn't fun for either one of us.  I love that my guy chooses to not touch anyone else the way he touches me and that makes me want to reward him, not punish him.

Your husband was designed with a physical need for sex.  More than likely, you and your husband will not have matching sex drives, but one thing that you both have is a need to connect.  As a wife, you don’t have to feel like having sex to receive the benefit of being intimate with your husband. God created us as physical and spiritual beings, so knowing that sex was all God's idea, we need to realize that there is more going on than just physical pleasure.  Sex is a reset button for your husband, but it’s also a reset button for your hearts.  The enemy’s goal is for you to feel disconnected, isolated and lonely and being intimate with your spouse is like waging war against the schemes of the devil.

So ladies, what do you say?  Will you help your Jesus-loving husband keep his heart and mind pure?  Will you help your God-fearing man flee from sin?  If so, then get naked, let him touch, and wage war!

"Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold you are beautiful!...
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you."
{Song of Solomon 4:1a, 7}

DISCLAIMER:  God's design for sex was and is beautiful and good. I know that everyone comes to the conversation of sex and healthy sexuality from a different place and I recognize that it can trigger hurt and pain for a lot of people. The way you were introduced to it may not accurately reflect the goodness of God and if that's the case, I am so very sorry. If this topic brings feelings of shame, please know that is not from God but from the enemy. God deeply loves you and wants to set you free from fear, shame, guilt, and blame.