Tuesday, January 21, 2014


I usually stopped by my Grandmother's house on Tuesday's after I finished Bible Study.  I had a couple of hours until I had to pick up Miles, so it gave me enough time to play some checkers, work on a puzzle, and catch up what was going on.
This was my view most Tuesday's...

As you can tell, puzzles really weren't her thing.
Her activity of choice was checkers and I never beat her.

Today is Tuesday.
I am suppose to be getting my booty kicked in checkers right now.  But I'm not.
After Bible Study, I had to remind myself to turn left instead of right.

Don't you wish you knew the lasts as they are happening.
The last game of checkers you'll play.
The last puzzle you'll put together.
The last time you hear the story of her getting engaged and married the same day.

Missing my #tuesdayswithmeme today.

She was a Proverbs 31 woman in every way.  A Proverbs woman is a godly, dedicated woman who brings glory to God and joy to her family.  That is exactly who my Grandmother was and what her life was about.  She was a woman who left a legacy of faith, commitment, and love.

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?  She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”
{Proverbs 31:10-12}

Meme was a priceless treasure to her husband and children.  She was, indeed, “more precious than rubies”.  She honored, loved and esteemed her husband “all the days of her life.”  Her daughters describe her as a loving wife and mother.  She was selfless in every way.  She was a good listener, an incredible friend and spending time with her family was what she enjoyed the most. 

“She shops around for the best years and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing.  She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar.  She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day.  She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.  First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.  She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.  She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking.  She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor.  She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.  She makes her own clothing and dresses in colorful linens and silks.”
{Proverbs 31:13-22}

Just like the Proverbs woman, Meme was a hard worker.  Whether she was sewing dresses for her daughters and grand-daughters, doing hair at the beauty shop or working at Dillard’s, she willingly worked and faithfully did her share.  She was so talented and creative, she was good at everything she tried.  Painting, ceramics, cake decorating, knitting, sewing, playing the piano, singing… she could do it all.  The handmade Christmas stockings, stuffed animals, blankets, and dolls are treasured items the grandchildren have saved all these years.  Her peanut butter and syrup sandwiches, popcorn popped on the stove, and fluffy egg sandwiches were favorites among the grand kids. 

“Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers.”
She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.”
{Proverbs 31:23-26}

Meme was a very classy lady.  “Clothed with strength and dignity” is an appropriate and accurate description of the way she carried herself.  She was full of wisdom and quick to extend grace.  Her words were laced with love and kindness.  She was a very intentional and purposeful Grandmother.  The grandchildren tell stories of her teaching them books of the Bible, the States and Capitals, the names of flowers and trees.  But most of the things they learned were not from the words she spoke, but the way she lived.  She was a servant-leader and she lead by example.  She was a faithful wife who made it her business to love and serve her husband.  She loved the church and made it a priority her whole life.  And she taught the girls the importance of getting your hair done and your gray covered, which was reinforced every Christmas with gifts of shampoo for color-treated hair.

“She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.  Her children respect and bless her; her husband praises her: ‘Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!’  Charm is deceptive and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.  Reward her for all she has done.  Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.”
{Proverbs 31:27-31}

As the family sat around and talked about Meme the night before her funeral, they had nothing but respect and admiration for her.  All of the memories and all of the stories of Meme can be summed up in one word, FAMILY.  She loved her family and she loved us well.  She took us on walks to the library for story time , to the park to feed the ducks and she would sing the whole time.  She had a song for everything.  She loved to tell us stories of the days she played basketball and of the time she heard Achel Hardcastle was in town and got all dressed up to walked up and down the street, trying to get him to notice her… and it worked.  To hear the two of them share their love story maybe our family’s most precious memory.  She loved talking with us and catching up on our lives.  Her relationship with each one of her children and grandchildren was personal and unique.  She was a Mom to the in-laws who had lost their mother’s, she was a friend to call when some of us lived away, she was a willing dinner date if we were going to Luby’s, Braums, Western Sizzlin, or Marketplace, and she was always up for a game of checkers.  She was the best checkers player in the world and was so competitive, she wouldn’t even go easy on the little ones.  Yes, Meme indeed “outclassed them all.”  If you want to know what she valued, just look at her calendar.  It was filled, not with activities and appointments, but with birthdays and anniversaries of everyone in the family.  She celebrated each one of our lives and each one of our marriages.  We were valuable to her and she was priceless to us.

Tuesday's will not be the same without you Meme!

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Saturday, January 11, 2014


Losing the love of your life is not something you ever get over.  When you get married, two become one, and when part of that one-flesh relationship dies, part of you dies with them.  I can't imagine how hard it is to be in love with a spouse that is with you one day and gone the next.

Doing life without my Grandpa the last year and a half has been hard on my Grandma and hard for us to watch.  They were married for 66 years and were still absolutely crazy about each other.  During one of my visits with Meme, I asked her what she missed the most about Papa being gone.  She looked at me and without hesitation she said, "EVERYTHING."  She was lost without him and completely brokenhearted.

Today, we are the ones that are left brokenhearted.
My sweet Grandma passed away this morning.

Today is the end to a love story that was lived out so beautifully for all to see.  Over the years, they never stopped telling their story.  The story of how they met, how he proposed, where they went to get a marriage license and a new dress.  Hearing them share their love story made us believe in true love.  When Papa told it from his perspective, he always included the fact that the first time he saw her, she was wearing a see-through black shirt that was... real nice.  Meme never confirmed or denied his version of their story, she just sat there and smiled.

Today, she got to see him.
Her Prince Charming.
She got to run into the arms of the love of her life.
The one who pursued her and loved her for 66 years.

Today, Meme didn't just get to see her man, she got to see Him!
Her Savior.
She got to run into the arms of the One who created her.
The One who gave His life for her and loved her for 89 years.

Today, she got to meet Jesus!

"For God loved the world so much that He gave His one and only Son,
so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.
God sent His Son into the world not to judge the world,
but to save the world through Him."
{John 3:16-17}

My grandparent's love story, their marriage, is a beautiful, tangible picture of the unconditional and sacrificial love that God has for you and me.

God is absolutely crazy about you!
He loves you so much and wants a relationship with you that is so intimate, so personal, that you can't stop telling your story.  The story of God's amazing love for you.

Your life.
Your marriage.
They tell a story.

Is it a story worth telling?
Is it a story worth repeating?
Is it a story you hope will be duplicated and told for generations to come?

Tomorrow is a blank page, allow God to write the story you want to live.

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