Monday, May 24, 2010

{ethiopia} DAY 2

We spent all day Tuesday at the guest home with Miles and the other families that were staying there. Besides us, there were two other families and we had so much fun hanging out with them. They were such a huge blessing to us and we are so thankful for the time we spent together.

The most eventful thing that happened that day was that our luggage arrived!
It was a good day indeed, since I had officially worn the same outfit for FOUR days. Gross, I know.

Even though we didn't actually DO anything that day, we were dealing with quite a bit.

When we got Miles, he had a double ear infection, pneumonia and that morning had some bumps that started popping up on his legs that were spreading. We were given medicine to give him and were told to come see the doctor if his breathing got any worse.

Besides dealing with a sick baby, we noticed that he wasn't doing a lot of things that we thought he would be.

We received updates on Miles once a month for three months before traveling to Ethiopia. The updates let us know where he was developmentally. Even though we had an idea that he was a little behind, we had no idea to what extent.

When Travis handed Miles to me, I was a very surprised at how wobbly he was. His head was real jerky and we had to support his neck.

At eight months old, I assumed he would be stronger than he was.
I assumed he would at least be sitting up.
But he wasn't.

Here is a picture of Miles trying to sit in a bumbo.

Poor little guy just couldn't keep his upper body up very long.

He could roll over once in each direction, but that was about it.
He was not sitting, crawling, or pulling up.
He couldn't even bear weight on his legs.

At one point, Keith and I wondered if something was wrong with him.
If it was more than being developmentally behind because he would fix his eyes on a spot on the ceiling and start shaking his head back and forth. Fast. It freaked me out a first because I had never seen anything like it.

And, we couldn't snap him out of it, he just stopped when he was done.

When he was mad or hungry, he did the same thing, just with his eyes closed and crying.

That was the moment it clicked for me.
That this would take time.

It would take time for him to trust me.
For him to know that he doesn't have to try and sooth himself.
That we could help comfort him.

The first day and a half, we saw a whole lot of this face...

He sucked on his bottom lip.
Like he was nervous.
Like he was confused.
Maybe even a little scared.

But half way through day 2 we were seeing a lot more of this...

By staying in all day, we learned a whole lot about Miles.
More that any update we received.
More than any visiting family could tell us.
We learned so much about him just by being with him, watching him, playing with him.

It was a good day.

1 comment :

  1. I'm so behind on blogging and reading! So glad you left me a comment to queue me in that you've been writing posts!!!

    Geoff, Mesfin & I were SO blessed to spend time with your beautiful family in ET. The pics of your family together are so intimate and sweet, I feel so blessed to have been able to witness your family's union in person! God is SO good. Miles looks like he is really settling in well. Definitely a Harmon!!!

    Love to all 4 of you!