Monday, January 1, 2018

Protect Your Husband's Heart & Mind by Getting NAKED

Does that topic embarrass you?
Does talking about it make you extremely uncomfortable?

If so, I am going to go ahead and warn you that you are going to be tempted to stop reading and close this post.  Please don’t.  Ladies, if you are married and want to do something in 2018 to help your husband pursue Jesus, please keep reading.

With all the New Year’s resolutions floating around, I would like to challenge you to add something to your list… GET NAKED!  Vow to make 2018 the year of more nudity and less modesty.

In marriage, part of my job is to help my husband prepare for Eternity.  I want to help him keep his heart and mind pure.  I want to make it easy for him flee from sexual immorality.  I want to partner with him as he pursues Jesus.  And I am learning that one of the best ways to help him flee from sin is to get naked.

Men are visual and that doesn’t change just because they love Jesus. Husbands were wonderfully and perfectly designed by a loving Father to be drawn to their wives.  What a gift!  In this crazy hyper-sexualized culture, the God of the universe placed in our husbands a desire and need for sex that keeps them coming back to us.

Choose to not make your husband feel bad for being who he was designed to be.
Choose to work with the Creator to protect your guy.

After all...

You are the only woman he is allowed to see naked.
Your breasts are the only ones he is allowed to look at and touch.
Your body is the only one he is allowed to explore.

Send your man into the world armed with visuals to protect his mind.  Knowing you can’t control what other women wear or how much skin they will reveal, be intentional in the mornings about dressing in front of your husband.  Let your breasts stay exposed a little longer than normal and make sure he sees them.  I promise, he will think about you all day.

God made the female body soft and curvy and your man doesn't just want to see it, he wants to touch it.  If your husband is anything like mine, when he isn't able to touch he often resorts to grabbing and groping, which isn't fun for either one of us.  I love that my guy chooses to not touch anyone else the way he touches me and that makes me want to reward him, not punish him.

Your husband was designed with a physical need for sex.  More than likely, you and your husband will not have matching sex drives, but one thing that you both have is a need to connect.  As a wife, you don’t have to feel like having sex to receive the benefit of being intimate with your husband. God created us as physical and spiritual beings, so knowing that sex was all God's idea, we need to realize that there is more going on than just physical pleasure.  Sex is a reset button for your husband, but it’s also a reset button for your hearts.  The enemy’s goal is for you to feel disconnected, isolated and lonely and being intimate with your spouse is like waging war against the schemes of the devil.

So ladies, what do you say?  Will you help your Jesus-loving husband keep his heart and mind pure?  Will you help your God-fearing man flee from sin?  If so, then get naked, let him touch, and wage war!

"Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold you are beautiful!...
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you."
{Song of Solomon 4:1a, 7}

DISCLAIMER:  God's design for sex was and is beautiful and good. I know that everyone comes to the conversation of sex and healthy sexuality from a different place and I recognize that it can trigger hurt and pain for a lot of people. The way you were introduced to it may not accurately reflect the goodness of God and if that's the case, I am so very sorry. If this topic brings feelings of shame, please know that is not from God but from the enemy. God deeply loves you and wants to set you free from fear, shame, guilt, and blame.

Monday, December 11, 2017


When I posted this on Facebook…
Hello! My name is Jackie Harmon and I am a hot mess.  My thyroid hates me, my hormones have a mind of their own, my brain forgets to tell me to breathe when I am asleep, I’m severely anemic which keeps me feeling exhausted, my legs are restless, I have horrible insomnia, and I have to take medicine for PTSD, anxiety and depression to help me parent my Autistic Ninja.
…I had just finished a cup of coffee.  But not just any coffee, this new magic coffee that my friend introduced me to.  The company that sells the coffee claims that their coffee is smart.  That it can increase my energy, suppress my appetite, curb my sugar cravings, increase my metabolism, help my brain feel calm, and so on and so on.

Drink coffee. Increase Energy. Lose weight.

That sounds too good to be true, right?!  But...What if it works?  What if their claims are true?  What did I have to lose?  Well, since they offer a 30-day money back guarantee, I had absolutely nothing to lose, so I ordered a tub.

After just one day, I knew this was something special.

I couldn't believe the energy the coffee gave this anemic insomniac.  I had a complete hysterectomy in February to try and solve my low iron issues but instead of helping, it left me wide awake until 2-3 every morning, which took my exhaustion to a whole new level.

My Facebook post went on to say...
I have to stick close to Jesus to survive each and every day. I know that He has a specific purpose for my life and yet my body seems determined to work against Him.  But God...  Sometimes He gives me a verse to speak life into my soul, sometimes He brings along a friend to encourage me, and sometimes He sends an unexpected gift in the form of coffee.
I loved the coffee so much and I decided to step out of my comfort zone and let people know about it.  This was super scary because, well, people trust us.  They trust us with their hearts and lives and we never want to do anything to mess that up.  We are Jesus people -not sales people, not coffee people, not money chasing people- Jesus people.  Our calling is to serve people and help them live out their unique purpose.  And since this product seemed to be helping us have the energy and clear mind to do that more effectively, I felt like everyone should have the opportunity to see if it works for them too.

In 2 months, Keith and I have lost 43 pounds and have had so much fun reconnecting with people from different seasons of our lives and ministry.  It has been a sweet reminder of how truly blessed we are to have so many people in our lives.  But the greatest part, so far, is having the opportunity to grace people right where they are.  I have received so many texts, emails, and messages from people whose bodies just aren't functioning right.  No matter what the reason, the shame and guilt that come along with that feels really bad and lonely. So having friends, family members, and acquaintances take that brave first step and confess that they need help, well, it is just amazing.

The company launched September 16th of this year with one product... coffee.
And they made it easy for people like me who don't want to sell anything... samples.

I give out samples.
People buy coffee.
The company sends me money.

Seriously, how is this real life?

If you are interested in trying the coffee, message me your address and I'll send you a sample.  If you are interested in buying some coffee, you can do so here.  If you are interested in locking arms with me and making some extra money with company that is less than 3 months old and already doing millions a month in revenue (that is unheard of), message me today.  There is something exciting about being on the ground floor of something that is about to explode and I would love for you guys to come along for the ride.

Thursday, December 7, 2017


Happy Birthday to the greatest human I know.
You love, serve, and give all of you all the time.

I love hearing about your day because it’s never about what you accomplished.  When you recount your steps, it always includes the people you encountered, helped out, and made laugh. 

You may be praying with the Mayor one minute and stuffing envelopes with the support staff the next.  You may be picking up a guest speaker one day and driving a bus for the student ministry the next.  You may be standing on stage one day and behind the scenes setting up tables the next.

You take time to speak and to listen.
You take time to care and to love.
You take time to be part of the solution, no matter what the problem.

You do you better than anyone I know and everyone around you is better for it.

Today, on your birthday, we celebrate not just the day you were born, but the life that you live and the difference that you make.  I am so proud of the person you are and honored to call you mine.

Happy Birthday!!!

Wednesday, November 22, 2017


This girl.
There is no one else like her.

She is beautiful.
She is funny.
She is kind.

This girl.
The daughter I didn’t know to ask for.

She is thoughtful.
She is caring.
She is mine.

Brittany, you stepped into our lives over 5 years ago.
You immediately stole our hearts and eventually moved into our home.
Our family of 4 was missing someone and we knew we weren't complete.
But then you moved in and helped us see that you were the missing piece.
Our family is better for having you in our lives and in our home.
Thank you for letting us love you and claim you as our own.
You are a gift we didn't know to ask for but are so grateful we received.
Happy Birthday, sweet girl!  We are proud of all you've achieved!

Friday, September 1, 2017


The sun is shining, the sky is blue, and there is not a cloud in sight.  I sat this morning, drinking my coffee, watching squirrels chase each other in my backyard.  They are playing in the trees by the lake and they are so full of life.  The finches were out, flying in and out of the dead limbs of the redbud tree and a fox ran the shoreline, stopping long enough for me to have a moment before running off.  It looks like the perfect day… in my world.

But 582 miles away, friends, family members, and other fellow humans are living in a state of chaos.  The overcast skies have dropped over 51 inches of rain in a matter of days and people are in serious trouble.  Their homes and towns are flooded and people are sitting on top of their cars and roofs… waiting.

Waiting to be notice.
Waiting to be seen.
Waiting to be rescued.

Texas has a hurricane named Harvey sitting on top of it and as painful and heartbreaking as it is to view it from afar, it’s simply amazing to watch the States actually Unite.  It’s amazing to watch fellow human beings set aside their own comfort and safety and to run to the aid of those worse off than them.  The rescued and the rescuers aren’t thinking about skin color or sexual orientation.  They aren’t concerned about religion or political party.  They lay all of that aside and choose to be human… and it’s simply beautiful.

Humans helping humans.
Humans loving humans.
Humans being humans.

It makes my heart so happy to watch people on mission to seek out and save others.
It thrills my heart to watch businesses, neighbors, and churches open their doors to those who are tired and weary, to those whose lives have been turned upside down, to those who can no longer pretend they aren't messy, to those who just need a place to rest.

Humans giving each other permission to be human.  Humans pouring out Jesus love to other humans the way they were designed and purposed.  Luke tells us that "the Son of Man came to find [seek out] lost people and save them" and then John reminds us that "in the same way the Father sent Me [Jesus], I am now sending you."  I am watching fellow humans risk their lives to meet physical needs of other humans and my heart is conflicted.

The eye of hurricane Harvey has given the people in Texas a different view.  They see needs, they see hurt, they see loss, they see pain.  And they run toward it, not away from it.  They are busy making space and they welcome those affected with open arms.  And the people are running to them.

But those of us who claim to know Jesus. Those of us who claim to have been changed because of His sacrifice.  When the the sun is shining and the skies are blue, we don't see that people are waiting to be noticed, to be seen, to be rescued.  We forget that we are suppose to lay aside our own safety and comfort and run to the aid of those who are lost. As believers, we represent a Rescuer who doesn't see skin color, sexual orientation, religion, or political party.  Jesus sees hearts.  Christians are suppose to display the character of God to the world.  Love, grace, and mercy should be how we are defined.  So when we don't lean in, make space, seek out, run to, and/or welcome, we don't look like Jesus.

"If you deny the value of ANY human being, you deny the sacrifice of Jesus."
{Erwin McManus}

We too have been given different lenses to view people and circumstances.  We are suppose to see needs, hurt, loss, and pain.  We are suppose to be busy making space.  We are suppose to live and act in such a way that the hurting run to us because they know they will be safe.  And yet, they don't.  The world isn't running to us, they are running away from us.  The messy and hurting don't see our churches as a safe place to be human.  If they are brave enough to sneak into our world, hoping to find the hope and healing we say we have experienced, they usually end up leaving feeling helpless and hopeless.

When we don't seek out and welcome the hurting, we forget that we too are human.  We forget that we too are messy.  We forget that being tired and weary is ok.  But what's not ok is pretending that we have it all together.  Acting like we aren't struggling.  Denying that our marriages are falling apart.  The church building is suppose to be a place that everyone who has been bruised, scratched, or beat up during the week can limp, crawl or be carried to and the church (the body of Christ) is suppose to love and grace you to Jesus.  The ground is level at the foot of the Cross and the feet of Jesus is where you find hope and healing.

Are waiting to be noticed, to be seen, to be rescued?
Are you looking for a place to find hope, healing, and rest?
Jesus sees you.  Jesus notices you.  Jesus died to rescue you.

But the Lord said, “My grace is all you need. Only when you are weak can everything be done completely by my power.” So I will gladly boast about my weaknesses. Then Christ’s power can stay in me.
{2 Corinthians 12:9}